Pinhead, phew just as well I didnt, he called just now to say that he had been wrong about an assumption he had made about a friend of his (which he was appauled by and told me about it), and with new information that came to light, turns out that HE got stuff twisted and messed up, and the whole point of the conversation is that people can be made to be seen in a bad light and its nobodys fault really, people just jump to conclusions, and he was JUST guilty of doing it, so it was even MORE reason for me to not feel bad about it. He REALLY WAS VERY CONCERNED about my worrying and fretting about it all day!!
He also said that he was at his flat working for the day, the flat is being worked on so someone has to be there. (letting me know his whereabouts again...another good sign?)
He also spoke about his business, and things that are going on there...
And that he would be coming to bath S because an old friend of is is about to divorce and needs someone to talk to...eeek. Whats going on in the world? This couple I have known for a long time too, and they seem so right together! Anyway, nice that he was sharing all this stuff with me, its come so far since he was shut down to me completely.
So yay!
And yes detachment, mmmmm, I'm actually a pro at it, but whenever positive stuff happens I just completely lose the plot!!!
He is such a wonderful man, I miss him so much, we both had smallish issues, but nothing that couldnt be worked on,it was just things were left for so long they ate away at our foundation, until one day it crumbled
I'm detached in a sense that I dont get upset by his independence from me, I dont mind anymore that he is seperate from me, which is a good base to be at to control all the other emotions that sprout up during this situation.
The difference now is that I'd like him to be next to me, and not one with me. Thats an improvement right?
I felt like we were so intertwinded we were one person, which apparently one should NOT do, its unhealthy, but it just naturally happens through the course of a marriage where two people are close. We were so close that he didnt want to hurt me, and I didnt want to hurt him, and we both put our own individual needs on the backburner, and if you do that for too long, you lode yourself, which both of us were guilty of doing I think
