After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Dazed&Confused]

Thank you Mike, I had'nt even considered inviting roomies to stay to keep the house.

QS I think Mike has a great idea there about sharing the house in order to keep it.

I don't understand why you can't keep the dogs yourself... why do they have to go with her? If YOU have a house and SHE only has an apartment then they belong in the house... espcially if they are med or large dogs...

My only concern with your strategy QS is this consistent beating you give yourself convincing yourself that your wife wants to be far away from you...

She does NOT. SHe wants to escape her pain and how miserable she feels. SHe has the idea that it will go away when you do... It does NOT... it will go away for a few weeks but it will come back to haunt her...

You seem to want to beat yourself up and think YOU are the source of yoru wife's misery.. SHe's not your responsability dude... She has to make herself happy just like you do.. wtihout hurting each other that is...

YOU are doing that... SHE is not...

SHe's not escaping you QS, she's deluded into thinking when you are distant how miserable she feels will go away and won't ever come back... She's mistake... and if you believe her then you are mistaken too...

THIS is why I love to follow along other people's sitch's. This is great advice for anyone with a WAW, including myself. I just copied it so I can re-read it whenever I need to.

Keep that head up QS, you gave me some good advice, this is one of the best I have read. It makes perfect sense to me, and good luck!