My first posting here, but have followed your sitch sporadically ... just wanted to chime in here about your security. (BTW, I think you did the absolute right thing to go to the police re ID theft ... one has to make a stand for oneself ... there are boundaries that should not be crossed especially by a woman having an A with your H.)
Back to your security ... perhaps you can get another dog, one that is unfamiliar with H. Consider a security light ... one that lights up when someone crosses a certain barrier. Do you have a family member or friend that can stay with you for awhile ... just until things have gone through the legal system. I don't like guns, and I wouldn't suggest buying one, unless you are trained in how to use it.
Make sure you stay married until November ... why not have the extra benefits, after all the cr*p you've been put through.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim