Would H just think I was copying him since that is something he and OW do together?
CW, I think it depends on how you approach this. If you do it for yourself, you win regardless of the outcome. Is there a biking club in your area? I joined our local bike club to meet people and to have people to ride with on longer rides. I get to go places with the group that I wouldn't feel safe going by myself (i.e. isolated places).
XH e-mailed me today that he enjoyed playing PP last night and that he got a good workout........later in the afternoon he e-mailed his sister (copied me) a recipe for caprese salad.......so I guess we're in friendship stage. Haven't heard or seen the alien for a week now.