You're still too focused on what she thinks. I know it's easy to say that and hard to do, but do it you must. She's going to say what she says and there's not a damn thing you can do about it. It comes down to control, and you have none over her. That's the way these things go, and the sooner you can get comfortable with that the better you will be.
You can control yourself, however, and it is there you must focus. They are unpredictable, and they will make you mighty angry if you let them. But ultimately you have control over how you react to someone else. It took me a long time to learn that lesson, but it made all the difference in the world. I used to hang on her every word (and I wasn't getting much from her; we lived apart), try to read something meaningful into every hint of action I saw. Guess what? It meant only what I projected into the situation. Drove myself batty and caused myself a lot of anguish in the process, all for naught.
So, give up trying to figure her out. Figure yourself out instead, and figure out what you need to do to protect yourself emotionally and financially. At the end of the day, she's gonna do what she's gonna do.
