We have to go to mediation next to try to settle this on our own We will have to talk and if we can't agree, the we go back to court.
I feel like not talking to her and being tough is what ended-up getting me out of the house. W was prepared to live together until the end of the D proceedings until I started to play hardball with the money and stopped talking to her. Now I am f'd and have to find a new place to live.
Got an appraiser coming to the house on Thursday to get an approximate home value, but nothing is selling. Have to figure out what is going on with the house before anything else can be done. No equity, but we own it. If we have to sell, both of us will likely be renting and it will be difficult to save up a decent downpayment. Will have to heat ramen noodles and hot dogs again.
I did put all the financials together for my L, but with W working part-time for 11 years, she said they wouldn't make her go back right away and that costs me extra. Then L freaked-out about the commissioner being too old fashioned and said to settle for temporary order. Will fight this in mediation and next court date if necessary.
W seems to believe that I will get 50% placement/custody. This is what everyone is telling her will happen.
L doesn't think the Judge (not commissioner) will be impressed by their agruments and wants to fight it there if necessary. She is supposed to be very good and I am paying her for her advice, so I took it.
I guess I will talk to another L and see what their opinion of the situation is. W's L said this will be over by the end of the year and maybe by Oct if we can agree. If not, court before year-end.
