I know where you are. If you keep up the work I can tell you where you are heading (you, not your sitch0
and where am i headed?
Quote:
I am with all the others here. I have seen changes in you. I can see them. We can tell when it's there and when it's only in the fake it till you make it mode.
i made the changes for me. i wanted to make myself the best option out there for anyone. you attract what you are so why not set the bar high? and i don't notice if others notice my changes. that's how i know i'm not making changes for anybody other than me. i'm not even doing it for forrest - and he issued the challenge!
Quote:
Quick sting, some sadness/jealousy...in and out like a flash in the pan.
i still get a twinge of this. but less than before. in the past, i'd be a complete crazy woman. now i realize i cannot control anybody but me. yes, i can vent but that's all it is. venting. i don't act on my feelings - and to me, that's most important.
Quote:
They don't realize the massive changes that occur when people come here and DO THE WORK. The question becomes - can we hold it? Or will we be back here again with a different person?
i actually surprised myself when i said that i didn't make changes and that i only brought out the real me. because when you are you - the changes have a better chance of sticking. if i went out every night to the bars and just partied, that would never stick. i was never a party girl growing up. it is not my thing and this is not something i could ever learn to enjoy. that kind of GAL is not sustainable to me. it would be a 180 but i could never pull something like that off.
Quote:
I have believed in Karma for over 2 decades now. I see it everywhere. All the open loops eventually close.
it's funny. so many have said to me "don't worry, karma is a b*tch. he'll get what's coming to him one day." i don't even think about that. the karma that i'm talking about is the support that i have received from complete strangers. everyone from this board, to the people at work, to my squash friends. there's a fellow at work who brings me a bagel every morning because he said that i was too thin. in return, i bake blueberry muffins and give him one a day. showing gratitude is very important to me.
Quote:
Quote:
You are doing well--please believe Forrest and Coach and me when we say this. You can do this!! You are no where NEAR ready to "drop the rope". Heck, you have barely tried to hold onto it, it is not time to drop it!lol.
I completely agree with this.
what part do you agree with? you initially said that dropping the rope was key. but lauraoh is saying otherwise.
Quote:
Don't prepare for any outcome. That's impossible - there are an infinite amount of potential outcomes.
will keep that in mind. i have a lot on my plate right now. a house to save and pay for, a separation agreement to negotiate, additional GAL activities to consider, keeping on top of my job, and taking time to take care of myself.
