It's amazing CD. The points you made in your last posts, the issues you touched upon, what happened to you in your M, it's my story man. I know all of these sitch's have a common under lying thread and the specifics change. But you're specifics are so similar to mine it's uncanny.

By the way, my dad's name was Mr. CD Bear. What was your dad's name? shocked

I spent most of my adult life digging around inside myself. I've been through many tunnels and through the hell inside me...as well as the heaven.

When I met my W I was teaching Jiu Jitsu and self improvement classes to adults. I could see clearly and I had a depth of human psychology and an aptitude to apply it in helping people change - because I had done it with myself.

I lost my way. I lost myself. I lost my center. The path I was on was my center and I completely turned away from it - slowly, but over time the angle had increased so much I couldn't even see it anymore.

I know what she sees in the other guy - New. That's it. Someone who 'listens', someone who empathizes and agrees with her, someone who won't call her on her shite, someone who boosts her ego because he's attracted to her; someone who is hiding his issues as she hides hers; it's all appearance. Don't they all start out the same? Didn't we?

I believe my W is doing the same thing. He's a guy she went to HS with and they stayed in touch over the years. He always wanted to be with her and she once told me 'He never has a shot'. Well EA's turn into PA's. I'm sure she's sharing all her misery with him and how much the devil I am. He's sitting there slamming me and telling her how she deserves so much better, blah, blah, blah.

So it is.

One day, they will see. They might not say they see, but they will see. Life does that. All the Karma loops close. At least that's been my experience so far.


MySitch
Me-47
STBXW-41
D-5
S-8
ILYBNILWY-01/08
Want a D- 01/09
Physical Sep-01/10
D filed-06/10
Got 50% custody=09/11
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