New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[TimeHeals]

My only purpose was to "perhaps" let him realize that what he's going through is not unique and that he's NOT crazy

Stop trying to fix him if he doesn't want to be fixed. That's unhealthy thinking.

If he wanted help, he'd ask for it, or he'd be the one buying those books.

I'm working hard on detachment but it's tough at times

Not if you're trying to fix him, you're not.

As for reading suggestions: mix in something funny. Get out of the house with friends or family too. Make some adult time also. Rest, excercise, nutrion.

Until you can detach, I'd suggest you only respond when he asks a question, and then only answer the question. And give yourself time to get over any initial emotional reaction before you respond to anything.

Keep this up until you understand and FEEL he has to find his own way and there is nothing you can or want to do to change that.

Then you can be more moderate.