Your H throwing the olive branch of closing his accounts is a start.
What he really should have done is turn the passwords over to you.. When he closes it he is also covering his own tracks... He didn't just close the account to the outside world, he closed it to you too...
It's a positive overall, just be aware of the selfish attributes of the gesture so you don't get overwhelmed...
You may want to start putting a schedule/program/plan together for marriage rebuilding since it looks like he is folding his hands and willing to explore the program further.
He clearly doens't want to leave the comfort of his home and ante up for a second place of his own... all on his time..
You have a lot of leverage here right now Sunny even if you don't realize it.
Oh, I agree: it's A gesture but not THE gesture. I'm sure he will try to appease me to the point of not booting him out while not wanting to commit to the marriage either.
Here's the thing: I don't know what I'll do if he decides he is going to have a good attitude, do the "steps", stop doing the negative crap, but still only wants to "work on the R, not the M." That will leave me in quite the quandry... So, lets say he's at 5% commitment level to marriage but is willing to do FT, continue with the homework, turn over the phone/computer, etc... I guess I don't make him leave even if he still claims to "have no feelings for me"?????
I feel like that's where this is headed and I don't have a clear answer for it. Part of me says "No commitment to M - it's time to go." The other part says that the positive behaviors/work will persuade him towards commitment.
