This is the problem with the private meetings is that it LOOKS like you want your "side" taken.
If you read Relationship Rescue and start printing out Phil McGraw's truth darts and pasting them around the house in your work areas your H will start reading them I am sure...
Your H really should read McGraw, but you can tease him into it by leaving samples about in yoru work area for him to snoop at...
The first half is the most important part in my opinion.. McGraw is VERY good at concisesly directing you to the better.
We can work wtih you to come up with some truth darts and such the next time your H starts fingerpointing/fault finding
The point is to diffuse the argument while at the same time revealing the destructive behaviour your H's using and showing him a more constructive route to take... Three pronged attack... McGraw is pretty darn good at it.
We can trap you some videos of him tossing out the bullets too
NICE!!! I like seeing video that gives examples of how to be and not just reading general philosophies. Those have their place as well, of course, but practicals are what I need right now.
