Sorry but I have to agree. Ex sat all the kids down while I had gone for a drive to cool down. He told them(unbeknownst to me) that he loved another woman. When I got home they all came running to me and telling me how much they loved me. This was in June of 06. he moved out in November but was home every night, just didn't always sleep at home. Finally when I said I was tired of the limbo, he filed without telling me.

He doesn't have a good relationship with the boys. Basically just plays good time dad or takes them to his parents to play with Grandma once a week. The girls dread going to his house every other weekend as they don't like her daughters or her. If it was just Daddy...it would be different they say.

My oldest daughter was 7 when this happened and she half loves, half hates her Dad. I can't rebuild these relationships and I didn't tear them apart. That was all his doing but he is too blind to see their pain. I bet Dan would be too. These guys have got to feel what they have done but are so high on their fantasy that they don't.

I am sorry for the kids. Just keep being the best Mom that you can.

hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
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