The goals you set are for YOU, regardless of what your H says or does. Forget about him right now. While in the MLC tunnel he is no good to you anyway.
Believe nothing of what he says and only half of what he does.
When he starts to spew his drivel end the conversation politely but firmly. Tell him you would be glad to talk to him later when he is calmer. DO NOT show him anger during a conversation. Keep cool and collected. Would that be a big 180 for you? Do not initiate any R talks yourself, validate what he is saying.
2, the thing you have to understand and accept is that your H doesn't want to be with you right now. Through your actions show him that you understand that and that you will be OK. Confidence is attractive.
Tell us some of the goals you have set up for yourself.
