Yes, we are here because we know in our hearts and heads,(most importantly, our heads), we need to stop doing what isn't working.
A big step for me was taking all emotion out of the equation. H always told me I was way too emotional. H isn't emotional.My emotional behavior scared him. It scared me too.
You know, thinking about the path we are on with DB, and our 180's, sounds like such an easy solution. But owning up to and then breaking the negative behaviors and habits isn't easy. I will say, though, that I feel more at peace with myself the last few weeks, than I have in a long time. I actually am starting to forgive myself for who I was before DB. I still get that "angry feeling" here and there, and have to tell myself STOP IT.
