You can't make your children "side" with you or your H. Don't even try. They are old enough to see what's going on and judge for themselves. Any attempt on your part to influence them will only backfire. Just keep doing what you know to be right for your family.
Oh, I didn't want any siding going on other than siding for the marriage! I was just trying to prepare S14 as I have done with the older 2 that things may be coming down the pike. I wanted him to not be blind-sided. H has already tried to discuss things with all 3 kids as to his side... I wanted some balance there. I wanted the 3 of them to know I am fighting for our family. I was totally respectful of H when talking to S14. I'm trying very hard to take the high road.
I spoke with S14 again and explained that I didn't want him to feel manipulated. I let him know I love H and just want our family intact - no siding.
