I would suggest changing your definition of success...

Start with:

Success is making myself healthy so I can create a loving and healthy environment for my girls...

ALL of them.

Just a suggestion...

Drop any defination that has H in it AT ALL.

You can't control him like you can't control the sex of your baby.

Set your sites on the things you can control ...

YOU.

Let go of EVERYTHING else.

And

Keep hope for what you want to hope for.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am