I didn't set boundaries and appeased her. I let my excitement about my new wife and the optimism about the new job trap me into a house we really didn't NEED. We WANTED it.
The 23 year old? He appears to me as a soft-spoken flirt/nice guy; talks softly and listens more than I have in the last while; 6 years younger (his age strokes her ego about self-image-which I clearly failed to do) and they go camping and have romantic hotel weekends and probably cuddle. We hadn't done camping since before D was born; the cuddling slipped away over time with resentment/isolation from about the time of the pregnancy as well.
Kids (especially first) change things. Everything they are doing together is because "they" have a 2.5 year old; not a 6 month/ 1 yr old. They are quasi-single.
I know exactly how I got her. I was very affectionate; emailed/texted cute nothings all the time; spent lots of time doing nothing with her (TV, movies- quality time LL); and I was at a job 10 years and had a swagger cause I knew my stuff. Plus, the house; the Cobra; the drums; and not broke all the time. But there is so much negativity towards me right now none of this stuff would affect her coming from me. IMO.
