I am wondering Sunny if your H follows sports at all?
I often try to explain a marriage like a sports team.
I would ask him point blank what managers do with bitter cynical players that refuse to show up for practice, won't participate in events, and are negative and threaten to quit whenever management tries to talk with them...
MOST of the time ball teams TOSS that dead weight OUT...
I think if your H likes sports I would start wording things that way... Most men like sports (I don't follow them, but i know a lot of men do) and he very likley knows how sports teams deal with dead weight like him...
It may start to hit home that he's not giving anywhere near 50%.
He can talk about his mood all he wants, but in the end its an excuse : You contribute your 100% or you get OUT and stop whining... If you want to bail then do it and do the walk of shame and own it...
etc
HUGE sports fan...as am I, actually. Great analogy!
FYI: Got a text from him awhile ago that said, "I have deleted my Myspace account and suspended Facebook." I waited 30 min. and replied, "OK. Thanks for that."
I wanted to say, "That's a nice gesture, but it doesn't solve the fact that you already have email addresses and phone #'s you need..." But I didn't. It's not the core issue of the day and I don't want to address that over text.
