Over 2 Years ago my wife started a job. All her time went into this job. This might sound stupid but I was wondering how she fell out of love with me, I kind of knew it, but always rolled over because I knew she LOVES this job. The hours of this job are awful 12-930pn every day but Thursday and Friday. Incorporate that with kids school schedule out the door at 730am and in bed by 8pm and a husbands 730-5pm. I just did the math and if she spent every free moment of her time spending quality time with the kids it would average 42 mins a day about 4 hours a week. With me she can average 31 mins a day 3 hours a week. Imagine that for two years!!!! How did she fall out of love LOL. I messed up some but I knew it was not worth the beating Ive been taking. I basically said you got to decide either you on board or not to fixing this after I read her the numbers. I really think she didn’t realize it was that bad. She knew it was a distraction but not 42mins day and 30mins. She said I got to go and hung up. I told her I was making a chart to take in the session Thursday. Thursday is the day she commits to recovery or at the least expresses that we didn’t have a chance and there is at least potential for it to be better. And if things go good the counselor will have to put us on a written plan with goals. I even said we can have a month cooling off period so we don’t talk outside of counseling. Then he maps out the progress. Either we are in or out. Our 10 year marriage and 3 kids deserve a 2nd chance. It risky but I am prepared to lose. Nothing will change the way we are going. That issue has been danced around in counseling and everything under the sun has been brought up. I think there is a 65-60% chance she picks the job. It is what it is at that point. She said today, before this it was a choice that was bothering her, and family was a priority, but she yelled that out. But she did say more of her was not wanting it right now. So its not good at this point but we were on the road to no where. My only play is her knowing she didn’t give the kids a chance, us a chance and that if she made some tough choices we could have a happy marriage and the kids could have a home. I also said its not the job but the hours, I would support her either in a new position or new company.
I am taking in the daily schedule mapped out with a chart, to show her.
