Susan - to get past the anger you have to forgive your H. Not for him but for you. Let go of the past. Concentrate on now and see how the future unfolds. Be the best you can be NOW.
My DD is 5, and I didn't want her world torn apart. I didn't want my family torn apart. As distant and as detached as we were, I knew we hadn't tried our best. H admitted he hadn't been trying. Neither had I. He has slowly started to meet my needs. We aren't having discussions yet about the M, the lawyer, the future, but I am okay with focusing on today. I am encouraged by the R that has developed since I started using the Divorce Remedy tools.
Being single is hard (did that for a long time). Being married is hard. There are advantages to each. Some days I think my problems are caused because my H still feels a struggle at times between wanting that carefree, minimal responsibility life v. being married with kids and limited freedom and lots of responsibility.
Can you guess how badly I want to ask what he's going to do about the lawyer??! I am holding out as long as I can - and then holding out longer. It helps to focus on my goal - which is to find out if the best this R can be is good enough.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
