I became a chef, a cleaner, dog care taker while she was lounging on the couch. She never even went to the supermarket any more just gave me lists. I am not saying that she did not do her share but I had to do my half of her stuff and a full of my own.
She became more and more controlling of everything to the point that I just went along like a limp sausage. As her career took her to the higher clouds she grew her ego to unhealthy size and became narcissistic at times.
I often wonder whether the drastic role change made me boring to her, but I lost control so quickly and rapidly that I really could not figure out how to bring myself back.
Boredom is not healthy in a marriage. I think you see where to start some of your 180s.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
