You are on the high road...just dont want to see you take the exit to the next road down because it is filled with pot holes.
You could gradually over time let certain facts slip out so they could come to their own conclusion. Likewise, Dan and her could end up ok and be good for the kids. You just need to use caution so as to not influence the kids choices on their relationship with their father and girl friend.
Just the other day, as I was driving near XW's place with the kids to check out a par 3 course, I passed by the tavern (appropriately named Wanker's Corner) where she and Ed met. I mentioned to the kids that their mother met Ed there. I am not certain why I said it, but sometimes you just cant help but fill in the missing blanks. The kids love their step dad, but they also know that I am not very fond of him. So they limit the amount of information they tell me about their mother and him.
Good news this week is that I see on my last child support bank transfer that my XW has changed her account to be the same last name as Ed's. I would have preferred that they both changed their last name to be "The Wanker's".
