How To Tell The Kids

[Jstar]

having been divorced 2 times before, the only thing you can do is take the advice of your atty which is only an opinion. the only person who will make the decision is the judge.

this is why it is usuallyalways best for the spouses to agree on as much as possible, it's all a negosiation. what does your want more then you? does your county offer a settlement confernce prior to final decisions and trial?

if all is said and done you can always go back to court. example, if you are not getting enough visitation in your opinion and want more, some courts offer mediation to try to negosiate.

when i was shocked teh judge gave my 1st xH custody of our daughter i fought teeth and nail for more and more visitation. my daughter appreciated it later on in life she's now 18 and felt like i faught for her. i did the best i could.

as far as money, child support can always be modified.

i'm sure you have some bargaining power or something your w wants, never ever are all parties happy when an outsider decides their income, custody and visitation. another horribley ugly part of divorce.

my h has no clue what he is in for, meaning on what it's going to be after we are divorced,. course he's probably to oblivious to it anyways.