It helps to hear from engineers and women married to them. Engineers are a different breed!
I am glad things are moving forward for you.
I realize my mistakes in the M. I am owning them and am taking steps to be the best Susan I can be no matter what the outcome.
H is skeptical of my changes- I have not said anything about changing to me, I am just changing. H is a show me type, actions not words. I am just reading DB, and doing the 180. If I were H, I would be wary too. I have said so many times over the years I will change, etc, as has H. I realize now, I never really knew what I was talking about or how to actually change until DB came along.
You raised a good point-some days I think I would be better off split from H. I still struggle with anger towards him as he (I am assuming here which isn't good) still blames me for all the M mess. Then I flipflop and think we never really had a chance to have a good M until I found DB, that implementing what I have now learned into our M could "save" us and we could grow and flourish as people and as a couple.
Am I just being wishful????
Anyway, have a great day and thanks so much for your support.
