H was a very good senior engineer, retired now for 4 years.H likes intellectual conversations and lately we have been having some of these.
Yesterday was H's birthday-I did nothing but say HB. H told me no gifts ( I hadn't planned on getting him one anyway), and so I only said HB. Yesterday, he asked me if I wanted to go to lunch or early dinner.I was surprised to say the least.Lunch went well. I still feel His relieved we are more like friends as he will have easier time splitting up. I don't think he is changing his mind about splitting up. I realize second guessing is not positive so I shall not dwell on that scenario.
I can see H is very wary of my changes. I keep on doing the 180 no matter what. In the end I will benefit from this even if H and I split as scheduled in November. H will be bringing up seeing a lawyer tomorrow , we have weekly meetings, at his request. H is pretty closed emotionally, however this might be due to my old way of pursuing , looking for responses, etc.
Honestly I think H and I have never really been the real us since we married!
Anyway, thanks for the advice. I will take all you said to heart, I will keep doing the 180 and hope for the best.
