I don't really understand your A recommending that you get 40% of your own income. Of course, your W was banking on you get the short stick. I think that this was her plan all along and she just said whatever she needed to say to keep you in the dark. What did they do for visitation since you have to leave the home?
From here on out, it's strickly about you and your kids. It's all business. Talk to your A right away and let her know that today's performance is totally unacceptable. You have every right to seek a second opinion. It might not hurt to get more advice even if you don't end up changing lawyers.
By the way, so what if your W brings up porn. She had an A. You have proof. That issue should be a wash.
For once, I'm glad I live where I do. There's a much more even approach here.
