I would jsut start using the RR spirits list in your scripts you throw at him...
That's where i got my truth darts was the work of the pros like Tupy and McGraw... my wife got hit with them regularly and it left her head spinning. She KNEW i had a point but was thinking "where the heck did that come from?"
I wasn't just challenging her, I was educating her as I challenged her and it was stuff she never heard from me before, or put so concisely.
You could jsut take the parental approach. Wait for his rant of blame to finish up and then ask him
Are you finished blaming everyone else for how you feel? Can I go to bed now? I have a lot of work to do all week long and this is exhausting.
or
Funny how our moods are our responsability, but when YOU feel miserable YOu aren't responsbile for that at all.
I feel pretty darn miserable right now too, but I am making appointments with family therapists and booking weekends to solve problems. I feel misrable, but I am OWNING how miserable I am and doing something about that WITHOUT hurting the famly in the process.
Can you do that? Repair how YOU feel without hurting everyone ELSE at the same time?
I can... Heck the DOG can manage that...
OK, you feel miserable, I feel miserable. We can do the work to start feeling better WITHIN the marriage or we can be childish and selfish and run away to a divorce lawyer... you want to be a child or an adult about this?
I like working with language so there's only two choices with one good and the other bad...
When you make it that clear cut they can't argue anymroe. They may not LIKE IT, but it does put an end to the argument.
