I know there was a lot of W stuff. I was trying to contrast her perception with the reality. Admittedly, there was some "wasn't all my fault" in there, too.
I understand what you are saying. Inside the what's are the why's.
They are pretty clear to me.
I allowed myself- -to be overcommitted -to sacrifice too much of ME for US -to be distracted from MY needs and wants -to get caught up and made unhappy from her unhappiness/issues -enforce no boundaries -be distracted from seeing/hearing her hurt -to become subjective and only see it from MY side -let her make too many decisions
I know I have to guard against these conditions happening again.
