I agree with the "working on me" part! I am trying to refocus myself on that now. I have become a big fan of David Schnarch's work (Intimacy & Desire). THis morning I began listening to the audiobook of Passionate Marriage on my commute. I am planning to use Schnarch's work as an outline for building a better R in the future, whether its with XH or someone else.
P.S. I left you some biking pointers on my thread. It involves black spandex.
