And I know you guys may disagree, but having ow around my kids = I tell the kids he cheated on me with her. If it were someone else I may not love it, but he has the right to date, he is single now. The fact that it is her, the one person I told him I would have a problem with, and the fact that he lied to me that they were done (for the millionth time) is just too much for me. I cannot sit across from her at some group event and be nice. I just can't. Sorry if that makes me weak. I could grin and bear it with some new woman, but not her. And in fairness I think the kids need to know that about her before they cozy up to her. If they still decide she is awesome, then I can't change that. But they can make an informed decision.
Please dont explain to the kids about the cheating. Take the high road. John summed it up best...
Originally Posted By: John210
When his interactions and whereabouts and text messages (regardless how stupid) have little or no effect on you, you will be on your way....grasshopper. I agree with K and your bro (but I am sure that does not surprise you)....the question is when will you believe it? When will you believe that you are better off without him? When will his actions wash off you like the proverbial water on the duck? Now on the OW front, I feel for you but you can not pick his girlfriends for him because of the possible effect those choices may have on your kids....that is a hard pill to swallow.....I know. The route I have chosen to take is the high road.....one day the truth will come out .... it will not be from me......but kids are pretty smart and they will figure it out when they are much older. Don't burden them with this stuff at such a young age. Bottom line is you can not do anything about what Dan does (his choice of girlfriends, the pictures he takes etc)....so turn the other cheek....let it slide.....that is my usolicited 2 cents.
