You really are just putting a program for the household together that you BOTH will follow.
It's important that when you express things you get this point in :
I am not asking you to do anything I am not doing.
If he brings up salary cut him off right away.
We put me in this position of being financially dependent on you. If you think I enjoy this you are mistaken. We drove the marriage where it is now. I am a working at home mother of three and you are a working at x father. We both contribute. We both are working to increase income in this household. BOTH of us are doing that... GOT IT?
Whenever he brings up the past :
We have both contributed to the mistakes in this marriage and how it has arrived here. I am willing to do the work to clean up my 50% of this. You get a clean slate and a chance to clean up your 50%.. That is my gift to you. If you don't want that gift you know where the door is - lets pack your things up.
Kick all his bad spirits in the groin when they rear their ugly head...
You are basically rreading him the bad spirits list AND applying it for him when you do this...
