Just to clarify she wasn't talking about abandoning her kid. It came up in the context or her talking about moving out and I asked her how she was going to take care of her S when she worked shifts. She said she would get friends and sitters to mind him and he would just have to deal with it. It was all calm and i said to her that that doesn't sound fair on either her Son or her friends. That was when she her "this is my life comment"
The way it was made was more indicative of a spoiled brat more than someone who had a plan.
She is pushing your buttons and you let her. She is good at it and she knows it and she knows it will definitely get to you. It does. One thing you should get from Sandi's list, your "LRT," is avoid the quagmire.
One thing I get from your posts and you said it yourself, a couple times, "I feel we are just playing a game with each other." At some point it becomes no longer a matter of pride and being right but a need to not make matters worse or, more so, baffle yourself in pointless arguments and relationship riddles.
You are vague with your history and I could ask alot of interesting questions about the dynamics of your relationship, but the most important one, I think, for you to think about, is prior to 5 months ago, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, was she spending alot of time out of the house?
