Even though i have always regarded her S as my own and love him ( She always acknowledges this ) i need to accept that he is no longer my responsibility and that hurts a lot. I do worry for his future as do her family and friends who have contacted me since this all began.
I need to just concentrate on my own S and make sure the impact on him is minimized. Although he may be better away from her right now
I wouldn't abandon her S.It maybe be me, I couldn't put the kids in the middle of this. To me its wrong, they have nothing to do with the D.
In my sitch, I actually did the opposite. I spent more time with the kids. Infact, I spent alot of time with them. Sometimes when we would go out to places,(movies, resturant, etc)or even play around the house, W tried to see if she could join in. I always told her, "It was something I had planned with just the kids." She would get discouraged, and encourged at the same time. She wasn't involved, but saw that I care for the kids and we would have would have a good time.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
