I agree i don't think it is anyone specific which is why I never found anything. I have no doubt that this is something she will regret when she leaves. She broke down and said I was her best friend and she wanted to keep things that way. I told her that was not something i can do. i hate to say it especially on this forum but if she puts our family and the kids through this and forces us to sell the house and start rebuilding our lives I dont think I could ever trust her that this wouldn't go down again sometime in the future if i let her back in.
When I told her this I could see in her eyes that she originally expected me to be there if she needed me or wanted back.
Even though i have always regarded her S as my own and love him ( She always acknowledges this ) i need to accept that he is no longer my responsibility and that hurts a lot. I do worry for his future as do her family and friends who have contacted me since this all began.
I need to just concentrate on my own S and make sure the impact on him is minimized. Although he may be better away from her right now
So I guess the next couple of weeks are crucial. i have no faith that she will come around before she does irreparable damage.
This whole thing is unbelievable especially when you don't have any real compelling reason for it. She asked me how we split the financial stuff as she has never handled any of this. When I laid it out she looked shocked when she saw the numbers. I am ok as my salary is quite a bit higher but she will really have to scale back.
