Glad you got to talk to your S. That must have been nice. Your mid-terms seem to being going. It is good your are managing to keep your focus. Nice gesture to your W. My anniversary is this month too. I have decided to do nothing. It just does not seem right to me when we are headed toward divorce. I just do not seem to even feel like making the effort.
I hope you will take easy after the mid-terms and give yourself some rest. You seem to need it. It will with the rough times.
Don't give up hope!
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I've started to reward myself for my GAL goals. I've dropped 45 lbs, so I had a great dinner, didn't worry about eating perfectly. I'm going to treat myself to some new clothes this week, get a haircut, and maybe even work on my tan.
Thank guys, As far as W b-day just taking S out to get her something he wants to get her & a cake. I thought of getting a simple card.
I don't know what to do for anniversary if anything right now probbly just a card.. This is probbly stupid & wishful thinking but thought of just asking if she wanted to go out for dinner.. I just don't know where we stand right now unless it's about our S kind of in limbo land right now, waiting for something to drop .Well everyone have a good day
Why would you sit around and wait for something to drop? If you don't want to be in limbo then get out of it!
My H and I have been apart for THREE years and each anniversary he texts or e-mails me some load of crap. It is absolutely foul and he is the one that left! Don't be lame like him!
I agree. Don't fall into the temptation of doing and PURSUING on your anniversary. Hell, wear black like it's a funeral day...Don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you grovel. Besides, it's 2 months away, so if your sitch changes, you'll have plenty of time to do something cool.
Hey guys, Wasn't planning to do much of anything it's just the end of the month is going to be rough. Just wanted to get some thoughts, so thanks.. Gonna take S to the beach for a few days before anniversary to have fun.
The thing is after we were doing so well last year at this time!! I had big plans for this years anniversary, but cancelled them in April; after we told S we were getting a D and I was moving out shortly. I guess you never know what tomorrow will bring.. We canall still hope..
Hey guys, Just trying to get some input!!! Since W & I haven’t talked too much about our separation agreement or D since last month. I was thinking of asking her to go out for coffee; to find out where we stand?
Also to see if she is still going through her lawyer or if we are doing mediation... Just need to find out our situation at the moment plus maybe we could just talk about anything, but the M.
Just not sure right now what to do anymore I just not ready to lose my hope and give up; I can only hope time is on my side. Who knows what could happen. Just finished a term paper and going to the gym can’t sleep.. Talk later Hope
Don't invite her out, especially just the two of you. Make her bring these things up. Pursue you must not! Always in motion is the future. Yoda would have been a helluva DB'er.
Hey guys, Just trying to get some input!!! Since W & I haven’t talked too much about our separation agreement or D since last month. I was thinking of asking her to go out for coffee; to find out where we stand?
Also to see if she is still going through her lawyer or if we are doing mediation... Just need to find out our situation at the moment plus maybe we could just talk about anything, but the M.
BAD IDEA. It's purusing, and it's REACTIVE.
Why are you waiting for HER -- the one person who DOESN'T have your marriage's best interests at heart -- to drive the bus, Hope?
