New Game- Exposed

[MHL]

CD,
Sorry, I got on last night and had good intentions of helping you dig and my own sitch came up and I had to deal with it. Like I said, I am in the trenches also, fighting for my marriage.

So, I now that I have had a little time to go back and read a couple of things you posted, I am going to challenge you a little bit.

Your W said these these things below in a letter or email, right?

Since we decided to have Calla things have completely changed. You have said and blamed many things on our relationship. Your job, Reno's, your new job, the house, calla, money..... truth is these are all regular things in life. "

But then you told me that some of your dreams were fullfilled below here.

I had most of them built.

I had my little affordable house.
My "toy" car and a garage to put it in
A decent job that I didn't mind doing.
I had time for my family and friends
Played hockey all winter
Pilot's Licence
I had a studio in the basement for my drums.

Remember, I am poking at you here to start to do some internal thinking/digging. Earlier, I asked you to to remember back way before you were a part of anyone else's life, what were CD's dreams, hopes and aspirations.

Did you really acheive those things? Your W doesn't seem to think so....in her words YOU blamed "your job", "your house", "your money" on the Relationship....(remember her perception is reality whether it is true or not, right?)

These are her marital complaints, but you said that you already had these things "in the bag" before you met her......HMMMMMM.

Granted things change, and financial situations change but whether external forces caused some dissatisfaction for you or not, the fact is you were bitching about the very things that supposedly made you happy.

You have heard the term "Pursuit of Happiness" haven't you? Well I don't neccessarily think that the term is accurate. You never really arrive at "Happiness" and end your journey that would just be boring. It is all in the "Pursuit". You see, when you are pursuing your dreams you must have a reasonable expectation that you will obtain those goals. Whether you obtain them or not is irrelevant I think that it is the "pursuit" that makes us "happy".

Personally I don't think things and stuff makes us happy but rather the pursuit of a preceived better life. Now you may have reached the age in life where you realized this or maybe all of a sudden the "trappings" of the "good life" became a burden, who knows. CD has to dig and answer these questions.

Is it possible that CD stopped pursuing a goal/dream, and it is okay if those goals change but you should be going after something always trying to make yourself better, that is life's journey, the race never ends. DEEP CHIT, HUH?????

So lets bring this back around, and somebody said it up thread....Women are attracted to strong, confident men who are moving in a direction and have a purpose in life, they want to hop on that train and go where you are going. Thing is sometimes when they jump on we start to focus on them and forget to keep the train going.

This is what attracted CD's wife to CD.....guaranf@ckingtee it!!!

I know you want your wife back, I want mine back too. But you better get on with LIVING YOUR LIFE or she is not going to ever hop back on that train with you.