Not to minimize your situation but hopefully to make you feel better, my H slapped down a big retainer with a lawyer who sent me a letter (with no warning from H) that H wanted to end our M and I should have my lawyer contact him. That was a month ago. If anyone saw us now they would say "what a happy couple."
I know it's hard but just try not to think about tomorrow. Just worry about today.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
Who knows what a seperation can do? Not going to lie when I'm here alone a night it sucks, even after coming back after a great night of fun, so some nights I tend to read, go to the 24hr Gym and just think positive things can happen.
Somedays are better than others for me and latley it's just been a few rough days.. Maybe cause S is gone, Anniversary is coming up, I just plain miss W & feel that we haven't tried everything.
How can we if she still has feelings for OM; even if she is in-contact still or not. ( some days I say yes others I say No). who the fu** knows? Just hoping more time and the fog will pass before we get to the D stuff..
You keep running to someone who knows they don't have to give you nothing back, and its a surefire recipe for being stuck in the friend zone, the gay one at that.
Got home from work, folded some laundry while waiting for the W and daughters to come home. As soon as they did, we headed out to dinner (all of us) at W's favorite restaurant. We all had a good time, laughed, joked, and then came home. W didn't mention anything about separation/D, but when she saw that our auto insurance bill had come, asked how much her car's cost was.
Watched a short show with our daughters, then I went to the Y to work out. Came home and W was already asleep.
I'd consider today a victory; no fighting, enjoyed our time together, worked out. Small battles, small victories.
I'd consider today a victory; no fighting, enjoyed our time together, worked out. Small battles, small victories.
I know what you mean. I also know about the roomate feeling. It's no fun. Take it from me, I've been here too long. Hell, we're not even roomates. The roomates I had during college became some of my best friends in life. One was best man at our wedding.
IDK, I'm fresh out of advice. Hang in there and do the best you can.
I'd consider today a victory; no fighting, enjoyed our time together, worked out. Small battles, small victories.
I know what you mean. I also know about the roomate feeling. It's no fun. Take it from me, I've been here too long. Hell, we're not even roomates. The roomates I had during college became some of my best friends in life. One was best man at our wedding.
IDK, I'm fresh out of advice. Hang in there and do the best you can.
Take care.
My current wife told me that becoming a room-mate changed the way she viewed me. I didn't have an option at the time, because I had no where else to stay. It was also tortuous for me, in that I could look at a lady thats supposed to be my wife, desire her, but never have it. In the end it diminished my libido and was scraping off self esteem by the day.
I don't suggest it, however if you have kids you may have to do it. I would suggest spending time with the opposite sex and out GAL while you are forced to do this to prevent parts of yourself from being stripped.
If that's the case, we've been roommates for years, so I don't think this is going to hurt anything. And I don't mean good roommates, we rarely talked, rarely laughed, just took care of ourselves and our daughters.
I'm going to meet with a new MC this week, one referred by my pastor. I'm also thinking of doing that surprise waterpark day with the W tomorrow. I think if we start seeing each other away from our kids that'd be a huge help.
