If you want me to tally up your H's bad spirit contributions I can do that too.. in DETAIL
You don't want a repeat of last weekend. If he is going to do the homework and continue with the program its a sincere effort, not someone going through the motions to humour YOU. He has to WANT to work things out... that's the first step. It doenst' have to be 100% enthusiasm, even 5% is enough... But if he is giong to work on this while prowling facebook for old girlfriends in secret tell him no deal.
Relationship Rescue helped me out a lot. I would buy that book for him, and there is a workbook with exercises to accompany it too. Turn him into a Dr Phil fan. lol
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That would be awesome! I've read parts of RR but never the whole thing. The question is, how on earth do I get H to read it? If he's not truly interested in saving the marriage, why would he read the book? I believe there's a 5% interest, but that seems to be it. Since he is still in this mindset that he has no redeeming feelings left for me - he has no motivation to do the necessary work. Believe me, we were given a ton of R tools and reasons why feelings aren't there, etc... this past weekend. He is overlooking ALL of that information right now and choosing to stay in this negative mindset. Of course, maybe the way Dr. Phil presents it could spark something different in him. Who knows.
I agree that if he is going to be in the home that these behaviors can't be present and told him so last night - for this week that he he wanted. I just didn't mention the FB (et al) discussion in my earlier post because it was already long and I was trying to keep it as short as I could. However...I still wouldn't mind the script because it's likely to pop back up!
