Well I think I am done. We had a R talk last night at her request and she wants to tell the kids sell the house and move on. She gave me the friends and possible dating line but I have no intention of being her safety net if her attempt at a new life fails.
Some of the stuff she said about my S (11) and the way she intends to blame him on the separation is completely crazy so I called her on it and she completely blew up and went on a rant about every little thing that happened in the last 8 yrs.
I kept my cool for the most part but did tell her to grow up when she started saying she was going to accuse the kids of being at fault for this.
I really saw a new side of her last night. It was so self centered even when we were discussing the kids. Remarks like "this is my life and I will not let the kids destroy it" . It was obvious she hasn't fully thought anything out like she talks about buying a new house but has no idea what is required. She works shifts and has not figured out how to deal with her S. She said he will just have to spend some time on his own. He is 11 with ADHD.
last night made it easy to detach but the problem is right now I want her out and dont think I want her back.
