And what's this business of him telling you there's no one else? You should have called him on the facebook prowling RIGHT THEN and THERE... you KNOW he's prowling and he outright LIED to you and told you he WASN'T
Tell him as long as he lives in this home he stays off of facebook - its disrespectful to you and the entire family.
BOOM
OH...I DID call him on it. I said that he may think he has done no wrong but even if he did not have a physical affair, all of his actions and behavior were destructive. I mentioned the facebook trolling, the text message, the talking to other people about our relationship - both male and female - the hiding the phone, even about me suspecting he purchased a background check. I called him on all of it. That's when he said that the things he had done were as a result of my bad behaviors and his ill feelings towards me. I said these things were devastating. He said that HE had been devastated by all my bad spending the last few years - that he is financially devastated... So, instead of looking at what he did, he wanted to go back to what I've done. He said that someone can quit having an affair but you can't get money back someone has burned... I said, "You don't think there aren't scars that last forever when someone has cheated on you? You don't think I don't remember the emails you wrote professing your love to another woman 13 years ago? You don't think I don't have scars from you having left me with 2 small children and that it was not harmful to them at the time?" (He also claimed that what I had done had hurt the entire family - that the things he's done only hurt me.)
SO, yes, I called him on it. He claims that he is not doing any of these things now but still wants out - so that's proof that "the love is gone".
And yes - after all of this he said handing over the phone, etc... was not a problem.
