If you do, half her work will be done and she will file anyway. You have gone to counseling for a long time now, so it seems to me that your W is unable/unwilling to get past your A's.
Your actions are obviously deal breakers for her, and no one can blame her. But the thing is, she should have left long before now.
Do not move out. If she wants space, give it to her.........elsewhere.
