Originally Posted By: 2BA
I feel as though why the H**l should I try to wait out his MLC while he's off having a new life.


No one is saying you have to. Your choice.

Originally Posted By: 2BA
What makes him better than me?


Nothing only your own perception.

Would you feel better if you were having an affair and leaving your kids?

You need to find your core and what you believe in

and make decisions from that

Rather than reacting to H.

That is the work we do here.

Originally Posted By: 2BA
What makes him think this is all in his control.


Becuase his choices are under his control and the sooner YOU realize that

You will stop feeling like you are a victim of them.

Originally Posted By: 2BA
He can't do whatever he wants 1,2,5 yrs and think it'll all be ok if he changes his mind.


Yes he can.

First of all he is not even thinking he's coming back right now so don't think this all planned out

He is in a place you don't want to be

... beleive me.

You can't imagine the pain he is running from.

You control how long you wait and more importantly

WHAT you do with that time for YOU.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am