Let me get this straight. HE is mad at YOU for divorcing HIM because HE was having and AFFAIR, and just wanted it to play itself out? OMG, that's priceless. You should have that embroidered on a sampler to hang on the wall. All MLC'rs should have to have a similar bumper sticker on their vehicles.

Does he even know how stupid that sounds?

My H would have gladly kept his affair in the closet, but she outed him herself. Even she didn't trust him.

Trusting, you've done your best. Move on for yourself and your kids.