Missher

It seems to me your W is not going to respond to pressure from anyone.

That obviously includes you

and

Your daughter.

Do what you can to help D13 to undertsnad that it is not about her or you

If you can without too much detail (ie explaining MLC)

Try to figure out how to reach some compassion for this situation even though I know it is breaking your heart.

I know I have said this to you and it came from Grace

Your job is not to repair the relationship between your W and your children.

Your job is not to damage it.

Your W has A LOT of guilt and it IS tearing her up.

I am all for guilt for the MLCr just not the kind applied directly by the LBS.

IF

She comes back there is going to be a lot to repair.

Just keep that in mind as you deal with all this and your daughter.

Be mindful of the things YOU control that can make that path smoother rather than tougher.

Keep the faith brother.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am