The only think my husband would read would be a tool sale paper in the toilet. I've read all the books. If I as much as suggested that he might be the one with the problem and reading a book might help - God Bless. Southern Men. You, on the other hand, need to learn as much as you can as fast as you can in order to detach and protect yourself. You can't fix him or control him in any way. All you can do is take the best care of you that you can take, and that includes holding your head up high when and if he does something humiliating to you.
Going Dark was the best approach for me. Right now, it's progressed to PITCH BLACK, but that's another story.
Stay strong for yourself and keep in mind the lessons you've learned in these resources. We are always here for you if you need to vent or blubber or whatever.
