lol citygirl. I can't believe he actually took that deal. But good for you. I never even thought about the cruel and inhumane angle with an A.
My W told me she wanted a D in Jan 09. We lived together in the house back then. She thought I would just roll over, give her the house, the kids, my money, and walk away from 65k that I walked into the house with. Before I saw a L I figured that's how it was going to go. After that L meeting... everything changed.
She caught me taping her (I was doing what my L advised) and tried to get restraining order. After the 3rd trip to court she withdrew it. It was weak and full of lies and my L and I were confident it would be dismissed.
Went into a Psychological Analysis for custody of our 2 kids (D4, S7). She thought she'd walk out of there with the kids. Sorry, didn't turn out that way. I got 50% of their awake time, full 50% summers and school holiday breaks. She didn't like this at all. The report really slammed her too - drinking dependency, she can do no wrong and I can do no right viewpoint, blames other people for her problems, will have a problem co-parenting, to name a few.
Came up with temp 50/50 custody with the psychologist. A week before we were going to start, we get into an argument, she's punching me in the back, I threaten to call the police, she calls them.
She refuses to implement the temp custody plan. I press the issue and basically force it. Told her I won't leave the house at all. We rotate in and out of the house while the kids stay put. This has been going on since Jan.
She closes our joint account where both our checks went and takes the money. I force her to put her name on all house utilities that had only my name - told her I would just cancel them...oil, phone, cable, garbage p/u, etc.
She tries to get me to pay 60/40 split on all bills. I set it up so she pays the diff in our income first, then when monthly $ are even I do 50/50. She is livid...and still is. I won't let her bankrupt me.
She gets fed up it's taking so long. In June she attempts another restraining order based on the Jan incident with the police. She lies in her affidavit. She shows up without counsel. My lawyer gets the OP changed to reflect us continuing to do our current schedule. Now it's on paper.
She serves me D papers. I counter with a motion to dismiss. My L told me her divorce papers (cruel and inhumane) are the weakest he's ever seen. She has stuff in there that has nothing to do with any grounds. Again more lies and fabrications that can be dis-proven with solid evidence and testimony from our MC.
She requested a 4 way conference, I thought maybe she had changed her stance on custody. L and I show up this morning and wasted our time. It was ridiculous. We left and my L said he doesn't have any idea what they're doing. The deadline for them to respond to his motions on the D and the OP have passed a few weeks ago.
I took the firm stance early. Took me a while to really dig in for the fight, but I've hardened up enough to really only think with my head. My heart's out of the pic.
She keeps pulling the trigger with short sighted moves and it's boxing her into a corner. Thu we go to court on the motion to dismiss the D action. I have my reasons I want it denied.
If we take it all the way through the courts I'm looking at another 9 to 18 months.
I have my kids..that's all that matters to me. Everything else is peripheral.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
