Thanks Dane. Today was a good day after I reread alot of the advice here.
I wanted badly to call her at lunch today but I resisted the temptation. When I got home from work I wanted to call her, but resisted. She knows what time I get home everyday, and she called 5 minutes after that.... S4 was on the phone and talking to me. She then picked up the phone, asked about my day and we chatted for 10 minutes about what she did today. I told her I had a meeting tonight and that it would run long. She asked if I could call her when it was over and I said yes.
I called her this evening pretty late, and we talked on the phone for nearly 30 minutes. No R talk! Nothing! We just laughed about things, talked about our day, chit chat, just really good reconnecting. I cued into her tiredness and said that she wanted to start getting ready for bed. Rather than try to keep her on the phone like I've done in the past, I resisted that urge, and just told her to have a good night and sweet dreams. She said ILY and I said it back, and we hung up.
See, she didn't go to bed right away, and i know this because she is on FB chat right now. But, I won't contact her... which is something I would have done in the past.
Will power is right. That's something I have to work on. One day at a time I keep saying. Today, I showed some will power.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch