I concur...my life is not all about my ex but this forum is one place where I feel free to share whatever I am feeling because you guys have been there and get it.
I think the healing process is different for everyone. Maybe some never mention their spouses bc they have moved 'above and beyond'...but maybe others don't mention them because they are avoiding talking about it. Who knows, not my place to say.
Anyway just a long way of saying it's your thread, talk about whatever crosses your mind. I fit a lot of that profile for codependency. It can be hard for me to really identify what I am feeling and even more difficult to identify what I want! Sometimes I struggle over things as simple as which movie I want to watch or which food I want to eat...ack!
