Ohhh piano! Wish I could give you a huge hug!!! And some chicken soup to make you feel better!
Sorry to hear your H is being so selfish! and as SR says CLUELESS!
I think the schedule is a great idea... not only will it show him what life is like as a divorced dad, it will also help you adjust to when he will be visiting and no more last minute calls/texts to throw you in for a loop! (i know... easier said than done)
Have you asked him what his ideal schedule is? How he would like to participate in your D's life? Does he want to do the 50/50 custody thing?
Now, dont get mad... i tell you this b/c we are friends... You need to be strong! and pick yourself up! DO NOT LET HIM DO THIS TO YOU!!! You should not waste one more night waking up thinking of what he did to you! You need to take control back of your life and your feelings!!! You are so strong and I always admire your stregnth... and it hurts me to see what he is doing to you! You are absolutely entitled to cry and be sad, but i do know that when i feel down the most is when I am feeling sorry for myself. TRY to not think of what has past, and not what ccould happen, but rather enjoy your moments with your daughter and your family. TRY to IGNORE your H! Try it for one week, just act as if he doesnt exist, or rather, let's go back to the nieghbor who got you pregnant!
Detach for now!!! Detaching does not mean you are giving up! It simply means you are letting him make his mistakes (and boy are they stupid ones) but detach and focus on you! TRY not to think of the relationship aspect.
I KNOW IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE... but you need to try for your own mental and physical health!
I truly am not saying this to give you false hope, honestly, i mean this with all sincerity. But I think your H needs to go away because it will give him a glimps of the shitty life that lies ahead for him... i think he is running away from fatherhood and is going through a MLC of some sort! The OW... well she is just a toy for now...
Please Please Please... enjoy every moment with your daughter!
FOR NOW: let go of H and let go of your feelings for him and almost treat this time as if you are going through a healing process, and let him come to you.
HE WILL wake up one day and see this as a huge mistake! The key is to have him wake up when its not too late... so maybe put some DBing into practice again, you were great at it!
Sending you so much stregnth!!!!! I believe in you!!!
Hmmm... I should follow some of my own advice huh?
