Early Parole from the MLC Chain Gang?????

[MHL]

Well, I don’t know if this is a step back or not but my W and my D13 had another falling out. Pretty sure that my W is seeing OM#1 again or at least seeing him once every 2 weeks as he lives 2 hours away.

Last week I thought that since my D13 and my W were getting along for the last 5 weeks that it would be appropriate for my D13 to start spending the night with my wife on the regularly scheduled days she is supposed to have both the kids. Up until this point only our S10 has been spending the night with her on Tues and Thurs and every other weekend. My W can only afford to rent a room in a house from a lady that owns the house and has another tenant also. My W only has 1 full size bed and my S10 sleeps with her. My W has made no attempt to secure an apartment or other living arrangements to accommodate the kids better. Well last Thursday night I asked D13 to go over to spend the night with my W and S10. She resisted at first but relented and went over. Well the kids were bored and mom slept on the couch while they watched TV. Then when bed time came and D13 had to sleep on an air mattress on the floor, she was not happy.

When my W called the next morning to see if D13 was going to come over for the weekend, D13 laid into her and said some hurtful things to my W although they were true. My W called me at work and she was upset and asked for my help, I just told her that I would do whatever I could.

Well I convinced my D13 to go out to eat dinner with my W tonight, just the 2 of them. My D13 was calm but pressed mom for specifics on what she was doing on her weekends off. Basically, D13 wanted to know if mom was dating and specifically if she was seeing OM#1. My W responded “I am not going to answer that question” and my D13 responded to her “that is okay, you just did…” .

My W apparently did not keep her cool and got angry with our D13. D13 told her that she wanted mom to come home and be with us again, and if she was going to choose other men over Dad then she did not want to be around her any more.

D13 is okay with not really having a R with her mother and Mom seems to be pissed that D13 is holding her feet to the fire. I tried to tell my W that sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment and later change their mind later.

My W and I talked briefly in the garage after she dropped our D13 off and she started to cry but left before she broke down. All I said at that point was that I will help however I can.

On Aug 26 my W can file for divorce, not sure what she is going to do but I am going to carry on the same no matter what happens. I could clearly see the confusion in my wife’s face tonight, clearly in the grips of MLC, so sad that she is sacrificing a relationship with her husband of 17 years, her 13 year old daughter and the emotional scars on our S10. MLC is so destructive it has ravaged our family.